Not all divorces are horrifying for parents and kids. In many cases, Ohio parents plan out the divorce and try to anticipate any problems that may arise. Imagine their surprise when the youngest members of the family throw a kink in their well-laid plans.
As parents, we all worry about how our children will cope with intense or emotional situations. We want to help them through this trying time. In our experience, a child’s reaction to divorce can make one or both parents crumble, which can harm the divorce.
Answering your kids’ questions about your divorce can help
Some children cope with divorce surprisingly well. Perhaps they knew something was wrong and are looking forward to a life without parental conflict. Other children do not handle news of divorce well and may need extra reassurance from their parents. You can help your kids thrive during and after your divorce by encouraging them to ask questions and then giving them honest replies.
Some of the questions children have about divorce include:
- Am I going to have to move to a new house?
- Which of you will I live with?
- Can I still see my grandparents?
- Where will mommy or daddy live?
- Can I still play with my friends?
- Will I have to go to a different school?
Such questions might seem insignificant or minor to you and your spouse. However, children find comfort in knowing that the basic elements of their life will go unchanged. Answering their questions truthfully while doling out lots of love and reassurance can help them adjust better to your divorce. As a bonus for you and your spouse, answering your child’s questions can improve your co-parenting skills after your divorce.